Top 10: Traits Attractive Women Look For In A Man

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adjective
adjective: attractive  

• (of a thing) pleasing or appealing to the senses.

• (of a person) appealing to look at; sexually alluring.

1. A Sense of Fun
This is the big one: Absolutely nothing is a bigger turn-off to attractive women than a buzz-kill. All women -- especially the most attractive ones -- are looking for men who like to have fun and do adventurous, unusual, even dangerous things.

2. A Sense of Humor
It’s true; humor is an aphrodisiac to attractive women. If you can keep her laughing, everything will go your way no matter how you screw up otherwise -- all because attractive women are magnetically drawn to men who crack them up.

3. Class
If you show just a touch of class and culture (in other words, not so much that it’s boring) attractive women will pick up on it fast. So what exactly is “just a touch” of class?

4. Dominance
OK, big fella, listen up: It’s a scientific fact that attractive women have an unconscious attraction to “dominant” men. In fact, the dominant males in some primate groups account for up to 75% of all the mating's with desirable females. Same goes for humans.

5. Romance
Most guys think it’s obvious, but here’s the real fact: Romance is powerful for creating attraction in a way that goes way beyond the whole prince-on-a-white-horse routine. Learn how to come across as the kind of man who knows how to connect with a woman emotionally and you’ll be golden. Instead of just looking at the surface of a woman, look within her to find the beautiful parts.

6. Sexual Mastery
What do I need to say? Women love sex just as much as men do. But just like everything else in life, a great lover is not easy to find. Women become instantly addicted to skillful lovers who know how to make them feel ecstasy and teach them new ways of feeling incredible. So read some books. Watch some “educational” movies. Do whatever it takes to get some moves down.

7. Generosity
This one’s your secret weapon. Attractive women can get almost anything they want in life from men, so don’t try to impress them with gifts. Impress them by showing that you spend your time thinking about the welfare of others.

8. Attentiveness
This one goes hand in hand with No. 9: More than gifts and compliments,attractive women want to know that you’re thinking about them. Even if you just tell a woman that you don’t like it that she’s out with another guy, she’ll love it, because it means you were thinking about her. Remember: A beautiful woman doesn’t wear that sexy outfit by accident.

9. Challenge
No doubt about it: Attractive women are used to being held up on pedestals and pursued by men all day long. So, if you want to stand out from the 1,000 other guys who hit on her all day long, challenge her. If you act indifferent and aloof to beautiful women, if you make them think that you’re only calling because you’re bored, and act almost disinterested sexually, they’ll often do their very best to get your attention.

10. Intelligence
Flaunt this trait at your own peril. Intelligence can be very attractive to beautiful women, but only if used in the right way. In other words, a way that’s humble and interesting. Use your intelligence to surprise an attractive woman with off-the-wall, fun ideas, fantasies and unexpected things, and you’ll charm her.

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9 Science-Backed Ways Men Can Appear More attractive To Women

Psychology research indicates that women are more like men regarding sexuality and attraction than people previously thought. We explore some of the major similarities and differences between the sexes, and how men can use them to appear more attractive.

1. Look for the universal signals of flirtation.
Rutgers University anthropologist and best-selling author Helen E. Fisher says that from the depth of the Amazons to the cafés of Paris, women signal interest with a remarkably similar sequence of expressions. As she shared at Psychology Today, it goes like this:First the woman smiles at her admirer and lifts her eyebrows in a swift, jerky motion as she opens her eyes wide to gaze at him. Then she drops her eyelids, tilts her head down and to the side, and looks away. Frequently she also covers her face with her hands, giggling nervously as she retreats behind her palms. This sequential flirting gesture is so distinctive that [German ethologist Irenaus] Eibl-Eibesfeldt was convinced it is innate, a human female courtship ploy that evolved eons ago to signal sexual interest.

2. Look for someone 'in your league.'
Men and women are attracted to people who are as attractive as they are. "If you go for someone roughly equally to you in attractiveness, it avoids two things," Nottingham Trent University psychologist Dr. Mark Sergeant tells The Telegraph. "If they are much better-looking than you, you are worried about them going off and having affairs," he says. "If they are much less attractive, you are worried that you could do better."

3. Present yourself as high status.
In 1969, University of North Carolina sociologist Glen Elder found that looks and wealth tend to find one another namely, good-looking women tended to settle down with less attractive but wealthier men. Since then, it's become a well-confirmed finding in the social sciences. Most recently, a 2010 study found that men pictured with a Silver Bentley Continental GT were way more attractive than those pictures with a Red Ford Fiesta ST, and a 2014 study found that men pictured in luxury apartment were more attractive than those in a control group. Why the attraction to resources? Evolutionary psychologists say it's because women want a mate who can provide for them.

4. Look older.
Psychologists call it the "George Clooney Effect." As a 2010 study of 3,770 people showed, women often prefer older men. As they become more financially independent, they like older guys even more. "We think this suggests greater financial independence gives women more confidence in partner choices, and attracts them to powerful, attractive older men," lead author and University of Dundee psychologist Fhionna Moore said in a statement. Evolutionary psychologists say that younger women and older men often pair up because while fertility only lasts from puberty to menopause in women, it starts at puberty and can extend long into midlife for many men — and they have a greater opportunity to accumulate status and resources.

5. Grow a light beard.
While some claim that the beard trend is over, the research says it's not. According to a 2013 Australian study, the most attractive beard length is "heavy stubble," which comes after about 10 days of growth. "Facial hair correlates not only with maturity and masculinity, but also with dominance and aggression," write authors Barnaby J. Dixson and Robert C. Brooks. "An intermediate level of beardedness is most attractive," they added. It only takes a bit of maintenance to keep that 10-day beard all the time.

6. Build muscle (but not too much).
A 2007 University of California at Los Angeles study found that women are more likely to have short-term relationships with guys who have big muscles. The evolutionary signal at work here?
Sexual characteristics like muscularity are "cues of genes that increase offspring viability or reproductive success," say authors David A. Frederick and Martie G. Haselton. But Frederick and Haselton took away another telling finding: Less-muscular men were thought to be a better fit for long-term relationships.

7. Be kind.
One of the most robust findings in psychology is the halo effect, a bias where you unconsciously take one aspect of somebody as a proxy for their overall character. It's why we think beautiful people are good at their jobs, even when they aren't. But as Scott Barry Kaufman at Greater Good notes, the halo effect works in other ways too. A 2014 Chinese study found that people who had positive personality traits — like kindness and honesty — were rated as more attractive than those with negative personality traits, like being evil or mean. "Even though beauty is an assessment of fitness value, there is no reason why assessment of fitness needs to be purely physical," Kaufman writes, meaning that being kind makes you look like you'd be a stable, worthwhile mate.

8. Talk about your emotions.
Contrary to the 1950s ideal of the aloof breadwinner, women are into men who can talk about their feelings. "When men are vulnerable women find them more desirable both emotionally and sexually," says psychologist and life coach Lisa Kaplin. "Being vulnerable will not hurt men's masculinity: just the opposite," she continues. "Emotionally well-rounded men are more desirable to more women and are ultimately likely to be emotionally stable and better long-term partners than men who are closed up and unwilling to share intimate parts of their lives."

9. Wear red.
A 2010 cross-cultural study with participants from China, England, Germany, and the US — found that women are most attracted to men wearing red. It's been a symbol of status since at least the Roman times, when the most powerful men were called coccinati, the ones who wear red. Red works for women, too.
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10 Health Benefits of Having Sex

Let's state the obvious: Having sex is fun. But what might be less obvious is that it's also good for you — mentally and physically. While it's something of a chicken or egg situation to determine the direction of causality — "Do healthier people tend to have more sex or people who have more sex tend to be healthier?" says Jennifer Bass, head of information services for the Kingsley Institute, there are some studies that link better loving with better living. Read on for the perks for getting busy.
By Jocelyn Voo

1. It's Time to Start Sex-ercising
While sex will never equal a kickboxing class or a session of strength training, the fact that you're getting some sort of a muscular workout is undeniable. The human body has over 600 muscles and during sex, "we're releasing and contracting all the muscles within the body," says Patti Britton, PhD, author of The Art of Sex Coaching and past president of the American Association for Sexuality Educators

2. A Happier Mood
Having sex is definitely pleasurable on a physical level, but chemically it has been suggested to elevate mood and reduce depression.The surmised reason, believe it or not: Exposure to semen. A study done by the State University of New York controlled the length of a relationship, amount of sex, time elapsed since last sexual encounter, and use of oral contraceptives to show that women who never used condoms reported better moods and fewer depressive symptoms or suicidal thoughts than those who used condoms.

3. A Stronger Immune System
Orange juice? Check. Flu shot? Check. Sexytime? Check! A study from Wilkes University in Pennsylvania indicated that people having sex one to two times a week had three times as much Immunoglobulin A (a major antibody) in their systems as those having no sex, infrequent sex (less than once a week), or — a note to your nosy neighbors — very frequent sex (3 times or more a week).

4. Glowing Skin
Forget your morning swipe of blush and overly expensive face serums. With increased blood circulation and oxygenation of the blood, a post-coital glow means a temporary brighter complexion. But there are longer-lasting beauty benefits of sex, too. An orgasm triggers a rush of endorphins and growth hormones, like DHEA, that help heal damage caused by the sun, smoking, and cortisol buildup, which is associated with the thinning of the skin.

5. Stress Relief
In 2010, Brazil's health minister recommended sex (along with other traditional forms of exercise) as a fix for the nation's high blood pressure problems, and he wasn't completely off the mark. Researchers from Scotland have found that people who were sexually active had lower blood pressure when engaged in stress-inducing tasks, such as public speaking, with those only having sex in the last two weeks charting the lowest number.

6. More Zzz's
Don't take it personal if your guy starts snoring shortly after some quality time between the sheets. That intense relaxation you feel right after climax due to an oxytocin rush can actually make you doze off faster. Big meeting tomorrow? Include an evening romp on your list of prep work for the night before.

7. A Self-Esteem Boost
Those after-sex smiles on both your faces are signs of a fun night and also a job well done. "I think when people raise the potential of sexual expression, it boosts their self-esteem and gives them a sense of being attractive, desirable, proficient, and confident," says Britton. "And that carries over into all areas of life."

8. A Stronger Relationship
Here's a perk you'll both enjoy: increased intimacy. A study conducted by researchers at the University of Pittsburgh and the University of North Carolina found that among 59 couples, those with more loving physical contact showed the highest amounts of oxytocin. Released both during sex and even while kissing, "oxytocin is the hormone that creates the urge to merge and bond," explains Britton.

9. Fast Relief from Aches and Pains
That runner's high you get after finishing your morning loop? Thank endorphins for that. That breathless, heady haze after some midnight nooky? Thank endorphins for that, too. Right before climax, a wave of oxytocin rushes through your body that in turn releases endorphins, which are similar in structure to opiates and have the same feel-good affect by occupying morphine receptors in the brain. "It's pain relief and pain killing effect," says Britton. Have a headache? Ditch the nap and squeeze in a quickie instead.

10. Staying Mentally Sharp
In addition to providing enhanced blood flow to the body, sex also increases blood flow to the brain, delivering an extra boost of glucose that it uses as energy. So, if you've got a buildup of e-mails to read or really want to finish your crossword puzzle, sex might just be the jump-start you need. Afternoon delight, anyone?

 

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5 Things That Can Cause Vaginal Dryness

By Katherine Lee | Medically reviewed by Lindsey Marcellin, MD, MPH

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Causes of vaginal dryness range from physiological factors, such as hormonal changes or medication side effects, to emotional and psychological issues, such as lack of desire or even anxiety. Fortunately there are nearly as many options for dry vagina relief as there are causes.

The first step in treating vaginal dryness is figuring out the source of the discomfort, especially if a dry vagina is causing painful sex. There are a number of conditions that can lead to a lack of vaginal lubrication:

• Changes in hormones. One of the most common causes of vaginal dryness is a decrease in estrogen levels during menopause, perimenopause, after childbirth, or during breastfeeding. Cancer treatments such as chemotherapy and radiation to the pelvis can also lead to low estrogen and a decrease in vaginal lubrication. “The vagina depends on estrogen for health,” says Irwin Goldstein, MD, director of Sexual Medicine San Diego, part of Alvarado Hospital in San Diego, Calif.

• Medications. Allergy and cold medications containing antihistamines as well as asthma medications can have a drying effect inside the body and cause reduced vaginal lubrication.

• Insufficient arousal. In some cases, vaginal dryness may be caused by a low libido or sexual problems with a partner. “If a partner has poor performance and early ejaculation, it can contribute to vaginal dryness,” says Dr. Goldstein.

• Irritants. Some women are allergic to chemicals in soaps, hygiene products, dyes, and perfumes. “Many women have allergies to detergents and soaps,” says Goldstein. “There can be irritants on things like underwear or towels.” Other allergens can actually include lubricants and objects that may be placed in the vagina, says Goldstein.

• Anxiety. Psychological and emotional factors such as stress and anxiety can also wreak havoc on sexual desire and lead to vaginal dryness when normal vaginal lubrication does not occur. “When a woman is anxious there is insufficient blood flow,” says Goldstein, “so she will have dryness.”

How to Prevent and Treat Vaginal Dryness

Treatment for vaginal dryness depends on the cause. Women who experience problems with vaginal lubrication due to hormonal changes can often benefit from estrogen therapy.

In some cases, doctors recommend localized treatments such as vaginal estrogen inserts. For other women, especially those who have symptoms such as hot flashes in addition to vaginal dryness, an oral medication or a skin patch that releases estrogen throughout the body is an option. And in some cases, both approaches can be used in conjunction to effectively treat vaginal dryness. “Local estrogen hormone treatments that are inserted into the vagina in the form of a ring, pellet, or cream can complement systemic medications that raise systemic levels of estrogen,” says Goldstein.

In addition to estrogen-based therapies, here are some other approaches that may bring relief, especially from painful sex:

• Lubricants. “There are a plethora of lubricants that can help vaginal dryness,” says Goldstein. They include silicone-based, oil-based, and water-based products. Lubricants are usually used to make sex less uncomfortable rather than for long-term vaginal lubrication.

• Moisturizers. Over-the-counter vaginal moisturizers can be an effective way to minimize vaginal dryness over several days with one application. “Moisturizing agents help introduce water into the tissue of the vagina,” says Goldstein.

Vaginal dryness is a common and frustrating condition, but there are ways to alleviate the discomfort. If a lack of lubrication is causing painful sex, be sure to talk to your doctor about all possible treatments.

How To Milk A Postate

How to milk your man's prostate

Posted By PEACHES on Tue, Sep 22, 2009 at 8:54 PM

The internal prostate massage is one of the most sexually stimulating practices you can do for a man, and it’s healthy. I started milking the prostate a few years ago after reading some literature on the subject. It was more than difficult getting my then 46-year-old husband to try it, but once I did he enjoyed it.

Milking keeps the blood moving and releases seminal fluid. Some men aren't into having anything in their anus, so a perineum massage can also be stimulating as well. The perineum is a small, smooth patch of skin located between the testicles and the anus. By pressing down on this area, not too hard, this will indirectly stimulate the prostate. I usually use this technique when I'm masturbating my husband. Again, I enjoy using ky-warming gel and it drives him nuts.

Although it took some getting used to, my husbands’ favorite is the internal massage, or milking. For this one your fingers will need to be able to reach at least one inch into your partner’s anus in order to reach the prostate. The best position for us is with my husband on his back, legs spread. If you don't wear gloves make sure that your nails are short, clean and have no snags. Also, have plenty of lube on standby.

1. Start by massaging his testicles, penis, perineum and the rest of the area around his anus with the warming oil.
2. Then separate his cheeks and massage with the warming oil from his anus to his testicles, always pressing a little harder.
3. Keep massaging the entrance to his anus until you can gently insert your finger about 1 ½ inches.
4. Gently move your finger until you feel the prostate, which is about the size of a walnut.
5. Push your finger up towards the base of the penis. You'll know when you find his prostate because he'll MOAN!
6. Slowly move your finger in and out, but don’t put your finger in all the way. Continue to move your finger all over the prostate. Make sure that you are holding the penis by the base and pulling upward. When you pull your finger out, make sure that you add lots of lubricant before re-inserting it.

I usually tease him for a while before I let him ejaculate.

If you are not comfortable using your fingers to milk your partner, most adult bookstores sell toys for this purpose. Even when using a milking device it's extremely important to apply lots of lube. Milking releases more seminal fluid than an organism when the prostate isn’t directly stimulated. Also keep in mind that it's the seminal fluid that makes a guy horny. 

Milking is said to be more pleasurable and intense than having an orgasm without directly stimulating the prostate. Sex should be an enjoyable free, fun, and feel good activity between couples, but it should not be the only thing that keeps couples together.

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