1. Vagina schmagina
As long as we’re talking modern fluidity, let’s remember that vaginas can be attached to all kinds of bodies with all kinds of gender identities. First things first, always check with your partner about how they want their body parts referred to. Ask for pronouns, and stick to the singular they/them pronoun when you’re unsure.2. Your partner’s vagina isn’t your vagina.
Being anatomically similar doesn’t automatically award you a muff-diving degree. All vaginas respond differently to stimulation and unless you’re blessed with some major flexibility, nothing can really prepare you for complicated cunnilingus. This is intimidating, but the good news is that this is true for everyone with all kinds of anatomy and sexual identities — everyone responds differently to sexual stimulation, so in reality, nobody has any idea what they’re doing when they sleep with a new person.3. Hit the books before you hit the hay.
4. Think before you dopplebang.
Sleeping with a similarly new-to-vaginas partner has its pros and cons. If you were ever in high school, chances are you know how awkward sex can be when two virgins are trying to have it. Letting someone with more experience take the lead initially is easier, and learning by example is pleasurable to say the least.Swinging the other way on the issue (as so many of us like to do), hooking up with another newbie can feel like you’re on a new, vajestic journey together — teaming up to reach the sparkly orgasm jewels at the end of this epic sexual exploration. Plus, if this adventure turns out to be a one-night-only experimentation, you likely run a lower risk of hurting the feelings of someone already firmly invested in the queerness quest.
5. Kindly get your acrylics away from my cervix.
Finger-fucking is no place for dagger nails.6. Forget your ABCs.
Chowing down on fish tacos, munching carpet, dining beneath the bridge, yodeling in the love canyon, lapping the labia — whatever you want to call it, cunnilingus is one of the staples of lesbian sex (and hello, any sex involving a vagina!).Cunnlingus can feel intimidating at first but think back to your first blowjob. Were you like, “I know exactly what to do once I put my mouth on this other person’s genitalia!”? Probably not. It takes time to learn this skill, and when it comes to enjoying getting eaten out, we’ve got time.
Whatever you do, remember that tracing the alphabet is for tots, not for twats. Abandon all cunnilingus tips you’ve heard involving the alphabet and instead diversify your tongue techniques over time. Though you don’t want to stay in one place or do the same tongue motion for too long, you also don’t want to move L-M-N-O-P-fast. Get more cunnlingus tips from yours truly-good-at-it before going down.
7. Vaginas are attached to humans.
Even though you’re going gay in the hay, stick to straight talk. Telling your potential labia-loving-lover it’s your first time is recommended, but telling them they’re your weird experiment isn’t.Sure, some people will be happy to toast you as a virgin to the vagina, but others aren’t so into introducing newbies to the realm of queer sex. “I’ve never slept with a woman before but you’re hot”; “I only do this when I’m drunk”; or “My boyfriend said I could hook up with a chick because it doesn’t count” may seem like compliments (uh, maybe) but probably won’t go over well with those you’re trying to hit on if vagina-on-vagina sex is what their real live sex lives are made of.
Though this might be a fun ride on the rainbow rollercoaster for you, queer women may actually have legitimate feelings for other women, so treat those feelings with respect.
8. Ask questions.
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